- Bob Macaluso
- Family Director
- Family of the Month Chairman
- Family Fully Alive Chairman
Families are the building blocks of our parishes and, indeed, our Faith. By including them in our mission we can renew the Church’s energy for evangelization and insure the sustainability of our Order. Here you’ll find just a few of the ways we can begin doing this, for it will always be a work-in-progress.
Building the Domestic Church
Consecration to the Holy Family (Required)
Food for Families (Featured 8)
Family of the Month/Year
Keep Christ in Christmas
Christmas Card Program
Family Fully Alive
Family Prayer Night (New)
Good Friday Family Promotion (New)
Family Awards Form
Family Director’s Blog
- Frank Weisgerber
- Food for Families Chairman
Family Director's Blog
Get the Word Out on Your Activities
Brothers, I know that many councils hold special event fundraisers for local charities, but, how do you get the word out to the public for their support? I assume that many of the councils promote their events in the church bulletins, as well as, flyers and email blasts for events such as golf tournaments, but have you ever considered using Public Service Announcements? Recently, Wilmington Council 1074 teamed up with a local TV station, WWAY, to broadcast 15 and 30 second PSA’s to promote their upcoming 6th Annual Golf Tournament to support Special Olympics 50th anniversary.
Like many local media outlets, WWAY is committed to local organizations that support the needs of the community and are willing to work with these organizations to promote their events using PSA’s. In some cases, PSA’s are free but are subject to available air time. For primetime PSA’s, a small fee maybe charged but your message is broadcasted during maximum viewership.
Before your next major fundraising event, checkout your local media networks to get the word out about your event and the Knights of Columbus and don’t forget about including Catholic Radio if you are fortunate to have it in your community.
I am including the link to Council 1074’s PSA for your review.
Good luck and much success with your charitable events.
Bob Macaluso, PGK
NC State Family Director
We mention at just about every opportunity the importance of exposing our members and their families to how their efforts with LAMB has a meaningful impact on the lives of those we serve – and I for one don’t know if this can be emphasized enough.
At my home Council (and I know other Councils do things similar) we are fortunate to be able to have a number of opportunities to accomplish this.
Three of my favorites.
- Holy Angels of Belmont is the charity that receives the most LAMB funding from our Council and is a short drive from us. Annually we arrange a date to visit Holy Angels and present our LAMB check where we invite all Council members and their families. The Holy Angels staff is kind enough to then take us all on a tour of their facility. I did my first such tour about 12 years ago. To put it simply, once you take that tour and see the fantastic work being done, you become “hooked on LAMB”.
As a result, over the years we have built a core team of Brother Knights who are committed to “doing whatever it takes”.
- We also sometimes have a guest speaker from one of the groups we support give a short talk prior to a business meeting about how our efforts help their charity. One of the most memorable for me, a few years ago we had the gentleman who owns a runs a therapeutic riding farm for those with intellectual disabilities. He is a southern gentleman, not a Catholic, but when he stood before our group and looked around, he literally came to tears, saying he never realized the many works we did as Knights of Columbus.
- Our Council also funds the Special Religious Education Faith Formation (SPRED) program at our Parish through funds we raise by collecting at Church for LAMB after Masses. The children from this program are inclusive members of our Parish, a special Advent and Closing Mass are held each year, and not only our members but the Parish at large sees the visible result of our efforts.
So think about what you can possibly do at your Council to help get the word out to your members about how their work pays off….
Visit, Like and Follow LAMB on Facebook: www.facebook.com/lambfoundation
Op LAMB Website:
Lamb Foundation of NC
Family Prayer Night
Family Prayer Night is a new program that has been implemented this year, by Supreme, under the heading of Family Programs. It is part of the larger initiative to “Build the Domestic Church”. The purpose is to strengthen the bonds between our brother Knights and parishioners of the church. Family Prayer Night should not only be a night of pray but also an opportunity to share a meal with fellow parishioners and get to know one another. It is my opinion, and I’m sure that there are others that feel the same way, that as parishioners we are strangers. Yes, we come together on Sunday to pray the gospel, but do we really know the person seated next to us? Here is an opportunity to profess your faith, outside of the mass, and extend fellowship to all. It also serves the youth of our parish by having them participate and observe how we as Catholics should be willing to express our faith outside of the normal Sunday mass.
Here are a few tips for hosting a Family Prayer Night;
- Gain the permission from your priest
- Create a team to plan and host the event, encourage parishioners to serve on the team.
- Promote the event in your parish bulletin, announcements from the Pulpit as well as signage in the church vestibule
- Assure that all that attend are greeted as they arrive and issue name tags
- If you have a school associated with your parish, invite the principal, teachers and students to attend. Students should attend with their parents
After the event, get feedback from those that attended and ask for a volunteer to host the next one. Remember, this is a Monthly Family Pray Night not a one-time event. Finally, write up and submit the Service Award Form.
For more information regarding the Family Prayer Night or any other programs, visit www.kofcnc.org or www.kofc.org
Family Prayer Night .pdf: 10608 5-18 Family Prayer Night SS
Good luck, and God’s Blessings,
Bob Macaluso, PGK
NC State Family Director
Family Week, August 2018
Brothers All, as we start our new fraternal year, that I’m sure will be full of new and exciting opportunities to build the domestic church, please try to celebrate “Family Week” which is normally celebrated the second week in August.
What is Family Week? Family Week is a time set aside in our busy life where we should celebrate the importance of our families within the community and our parish. Remember, one of our goals as Knights is to Build the Domestic Church.
How to celebrate Family Week? There is no one way to celebrate Family Week since each parish is different. However, you may want to start by speaking to your parish priest and asking to have a mass offered at the beginning and end of Family Week for The Holy Family.
Other Opportunities to Celebrate Family Week:
- If your council is having a picnic, invite perspective members and their family as well as parishioners
- Distribute Family Pray Cards, remember the children, get them an age appropriate card as well
- Invite parishioners to join you in your councils works of charity that you may have scheduled, such as food drives, LAMB Collections, etc.
These are just a few suggestions. Your Family Director and your membership may have other suggestions more fitting to your Parish and Parishioners interest.
Good luck, and Gods Blessings,
Bob Macaluso, PGK
NC State Family Director
What to Do With New e-Members
Here’s hoping you’re finding new e-members who’ve asked about joining your council. Let’s stop for a minute and ask ourselves, “What makes them tick?”
Why don’t they come to the meetings? Probably every council in NC holds its business meeting in the evenings. That said, you must remember these new brothers’ time is not their own. Evenings are when they might have to take their kids to basketball practice, a scout meeting or dance class. Does your meeting conflict with the kids’ Faith Formation classes? Finally, ask yourself which is really more important – attending a meeting or tucking their little ones into bed at night?
The same could be said of council projects and social activities. Understand, they’re probably already doing good and worthwhile things in their lives – that’s the spirit that led them to seek out the Knights of Columbus in the first place. See if there’s a way the council can join THEM in their endeavors.
How can we be pro-active to keep from losing them? You assigned them a mentor when they first joined your council, right? His job doesn’t end after a couple of months or even a year. He’s the contact who will keep in touch with this man. He’s the one who will inform them of upcoming activities. The council will have to plan their activities 60-90 days in advance so no one gets caught by surprise. You’ll have to keep posting these on the council website, an easily accessible electronic calendar AND on Social Media – you never know who else you might reach out there!
Having Realistic Expectations. We’ve established younger members have a limited amount of time to spend with us. What can we expect of them? They cannot be as active as we might hope although that may well happen as their families get a little older and they become more experienced. Perhaps they can set as an initial goal participation in two activities per year. In one they might be a participant. In another they might assist in the planning and execution. We have plenty of ‘canned’ projects to choose from: a council Christmas party, setting up VBS, Operation LAMB, LifeChain, cooking or providing drinks at a council or parish picnic. Think about it: these are things that will qualify them for Knight of the Month, Family of the Month and, yes, put them on the way toward the Shining Armor Award!
Remember: They have already MADE a commitment! I used to think the e-Member program was like an electronic version of our ‘Interest Card’. No, e-Members saw things they like about our Order and DID sign their names on the dotted line and DID PAY $30 dues to some organization they knew little about. So those who join on-line are in fact making a commitment to our Order from the start, not just asking for information – and that’s even better than an ‘Interest Card’! We, in turn, must be worthy of their trust and welcome them into our Order AS brother knights, coaching them in what they need to know and leading them in becoming better Catholic men, fathers and leaders!
NC Family Director
NC Silver Rose Chairman
Heads-Up for New Council Officers!
First: Vital things that need to be done soon. Budget – Plan what you want to do, the cost and then your fundraisers. SP-7 due June 30 (if you didn’t turn it in at the State Convention); get a head start on next year’s by penciling in all the programs you regularly do each year – those are so often forgotten in ‘crunch time’. You’ll need some of that info for January’s Form 1728 (Yes, I’ll make you look it up). The Audit is due on the Feast of the Assumption. Let us know who’s running the council with forms 185, 365 and the State Directory and State Contact forms. Warning: Late means DISQUALIFIED for Star Council!
Second: Find out what you can do on-line such as submit reports/awards and get information. We don’t get a lot of info from the councils on the programs and successes they have. On-line entry makes it easy! OH, there is Regional Leadership Training available for you! Now let’s get into some programs and activities………
3rd Degrees: Recruiting peaks in spring, so new brothers may be anxious to move ahead through their degrees. Do they have 2nd degrees? Any 2nd Degree brothers wanting to serve as officers are required to get their 3rd Degree ASAP. Can you host one? Younger knights will be off from school. Summer is also when parish calendars and facilities have the most openings. The prospect of a 4th Degree in Autumn makes Summer the best time to host a 3rd Degree. Jump on this NOW as THREE months of prep time is REQUIRED!
VBS: It’d be great to get some brothers to work it during the 5 weekday evenings it’s in session. If not, hold a social/project meeting on the Sunday before VBS starts to help construct the sets, decorate the rooms and maybe provide hot dogs and drinks for everyone. If this falls in August, call it a “Family Week” activity! Family Week is actually the 2nd week in August, so that’d be the GREAT time for a council outing or parish picnic.
LifeChain: This kicks off the 40-Days for Life on the first Sunday in October. Waiting until later to organize it may be too late – there will likely be only ONE business meeting between Labor Day and LifeChain Sunday. It’s an easy, ideal program for family and parish participation – your council can make that happen!
If your council does the 5th Sunday Rosary program, mark JULY, September and December as 5-Sunday months. And speaking of December, you could combine the 5th Sunday Rosary with the Prayer of Consecration to the Holy Family if the holiday schedule precludes saying it at Masses. BTW, you may want to choose your council’s December activities NOW as parish calendars fill up quickly and soon. You’ll also want to order religious Christmas cards from the Squires before the Summer is gone – really!
What else could you thinking about? Free Throw Contest, Soccer Challenge, Essay and Poster Contests. New Youth Directors MUST be certified on Supreme’s program in 45 days – NO EXCEPTIONS! Featured programs: Food for Families and Coats for Kids. How about a Fraternal Benefits Night? A November Memorial Mass? Family of the Month? Knight of the Month? (Award them on alternate months if your council is small.)
NEW INCENTIVE: Councils holding 2 Building the Domestic Church activities in each of 4 program categories (8 total) will be eligible to receive a Holy Family icon from Supreme per their delayed February 24th webinar.
PS – Know of any councils that can only recruit 1 or 2 new members a year? The e-Member program could change that and might now give them a real shot at becoming Star Councils! April’s Family THK article outlined this and June’s will provide some further pointers.
NC Family Director
NC Silver Rose Chairman
The Looming Care Crisis, Part 2: Elder Orphans
- The isolated aged living, often singly, in local communities
- Family or relatives live far away, face restrictions themselves or simply don’t exist
- They risk losing decision-making capacity, mobility and independence
- They are at increasing risk for health and safety-related problems
- Few people are aware of their situation and still fewer visit them regularly
- They lack social contact and can easily become lonely, depressed
- Financial resources may be strained due to medical costs, poor decisions or inflation
How common is this?
- 22% of people 65 and above are in situations of this sort
- 33% of those aged 45 to 63 may be destined to find themselves in this position
- There were 35 million in 2002 – by 2012 there were 43 million
- 11.6% of women 80-84 were childless in 2010; that will increase to 16% by 2030
What must happen?
The medical and social community must actively screen for elder orphans before they lose function or are admitted to a healthcare facility. That includes us – you, your council, your parish, its ministries! Several ideas and suggestions were voiced in last month’s THK. That’s a start as each person and each situation will require different forms and degrees of care and interaction. I forgot to list it, but Meals on Wheels would certainly be appropriate, especially on holidays and long weekends. Keep an eye out for your elderly neighbors; ‘see something, say something’ – and say something if you don’t see them as usual.
But this could happen to YOU or someone you know so you’ve got to prepare. Who will care for you? Where and how will you live? Where will you generate a close-at-hand circle of friends? Who will be contacted if there’s an urgent need and who will have the authority to make decisions if you can’t? Who can provide a ‘second opinion’ on your decisions so as to avoid scams? Your estate, its related documents and your finances must be in order. Major medical issues can drain savings; your Field Agent may be able to help you on that and maybe other financial questions.
And, here’s a link to some resources and discussions: https://www.seniorcare.com/
NC Family Director
NC Silver Rose Chairman